About Us
Josh and Hollie grew up in neighboring towns in Southern California. After graduating high school they left home for university where they subsequently started a non-profit Kaiizen, developed training programs for teens/young adults on relationship violence prevention, and began crises intervention coaching for families with at-risk loved ones. Their work inspired a collaboration resulting in the book series "Bang Head Here."
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Bang Head Here:
You In The Equation
Are you worried about your loved one who is no longer thriving at home? Does it seem that no matter what you do they grow more and more distant?
Bang Head Here: "You in the equation", is a deep dive into the lives of those who are caught in a cycle of addiction & destructive behaviors. Focusing mostly on the parent/child relationship we address how past programming, default settings and patterns, and pain management are feeding into the connection crises at home.
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What People Say
"I used to get away with lying to therapists just to get through our sessions, but with Josh things were different. He helped me realize I was using my lies to avoid and then I realized he was not just someone I could be transparent with, but someone I had to be transparent with."
- Liam
"I felt desperate trying to figure out what to do for my teen who was totally losing it. I wanted things to get better now. Hollie helped me understand my struggle might be longer than what I'd hoped, which also helped me be more patient and realistic with my teen."
- Rachel
"Josh has developed the ability to see people and situations for what they are at their core, no matter what kind of smoke screens surround it."
- Matt
"For myself, I think one of Josh’s most unique talents is how he responds to what he sees. He was never preachy or condescending, and he didn’t force me to accept his version of things, but delicately guided me to find the truth for myself through years of reflection and experience."
- Noah
"Hollie made me feel safe talking about things I was afraid to tell others. She never reacted, she just listened. That's all I needed was someone to listen, someone to help me figure out what I was going to do next, and that I wasn't a bad person for feeling how I felt."
- Anna
"Hollie helped me see that I was making choices in my personal relationships to try and make up for the man my father never was. She helped me see it wasn't my job to change him, and to feel okay about myself without his validation."
- Damien
Other Books
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- When a loved one is struggling to thrive, you as a caretaker may desperately reach for anything that you can to help them. You may look to friends and family and other outside sources to fill this void. But, what if you are reaching for something that can be found inside of you? What if some of your biggest struggles with your loved one are simply because of things you don’t know about yourself? You in the Equation is an invitation to help your loved one by diving deep into how you and your loved one communicate, how he sees you, and how you subsequently see him. We will show you how to heal past personality programming problems that keep you from having a healthy connection, and will provide you with fresh ideas to shift the paradigm in which you relate and react to each other.
- The inability to communicate is at the core of every disconnected relationship. Words can create distance when all you want is clarity. So, how do you talk to your loved one without a discussion turning into a fight? How do you understand what your loved one is really trying to say without jumping to assumptions? Communication can seem daunting to conquer. In Cracking the Communication Code, we help you take on that challenge by providing you with the tools to dissect how and where you and a loved one disconnect in conflict. We will show you what to say—and what words will deepen your connection.
- Struggling loved ones usually feel very little connection to their loved ones at home. Because of an innate need to feel loved, appreciated, and accepted, loved ones can turn elsewhere to fill what is missing. When this happens, loved ones can live in a culture of disconnect. In Creating a Culture of Connection, we ask the question, “What is a healthy family culture?” We provide examples of families with a healthy culture—families that repeatedly produce individuals who are thriving. We also provide examples of families who are constantly at odds with one another and the world at large—an unhealthy family environment. We will help you take a deeper look at your family culture, providing ideas and suggestions on how to shift, change, or add to it in the hopes that you can help to discourage a loved one from a family disconnection.