Let’s Get Started!
We are asked the same question all the time,“How do you do it?” The “do it” refers to connecting. The question usually comes from an insecure place. No parent ever wants to feel they need to get outside help to get things back on track for their family. How can we walk into a home, a total stranger, sit down with a struggling kid, and get them to commit to start working with us? How is it after endless late-night fights and struggle that a defiant or disconnected teen can open up to a complete stranger about their experience and what they are feeling?
We know the answer. We all are starving for, no, we all crave, connection. True, pure connection. So when we walk into a home, we don’t have magic dust we sprinkle. We don’t make threats or cajole our way into trust. We purely connect.
Some say it is a natural ability, maybe, but connection is rooted in the deep desire to actually listen, know someone, to be alongside someone. We have all felt when people have agendas, only one ear is open, or are only somewhat invested.
As human beings we are incredibly intuitive, more then we give ourselves credit for. Much of our disconnection comes from what we don’t see or are not willing to see. We make assumptions, take things personally, and create agendas which ultimately cause us to disconnect even more.
So many parts of ourselves are on autopilot that we ourselves are disconnected from what true connection is, to ourselves, and to others. Everything compounds and we begin a cycle of push/pull, hot/cold with ourselves and those around us because we are so far from feeling connected and safe. We feel the only thing we can really do is react.
So slow down with us here, and breathe. We are walking this road back to connection alongside you. Just like you we have relationships in our live we are still working to improve, we can walk this path together, as we impart some of what we’ve been learning over the years about this process.
